Tips on How to Help Your Kids Deal with Anger

It is normal to feel angry. It is a valid emotion, and when handled correctly can be really effective. Everyone can have anger, and your little kids are no exception. In fact, children are often easier to get a tantrum than adults. In some cases, kids can easily go out of control due to anger and do something bad.  However, not all parents know what to do when their kids get angry. Some do not encourage their children to express anger by punishing them for expressing their feelings. This is not a very good solution to deal with angry kids as it can make them even more stressed. So how to help your kids deal with Anger? Here are our tips to help you guide your kid to handle anger.

Understand What Causes Anger in Children

Anger is a normal emotion, and every child has periods of incontinence. Sometimes, the cause of your child’s anger can be very simple. It can come from hunger or tiredness. A child who has a strong sense of fairness will be very angry if something unfair comes to them. Children may be angry if they are not heard, or when they are unable to express emotions. It is a form of communication when children are trying to say something but have not yet learned the appropriate expression. For some children, anger is a sign of emotional trauma. If your children feel very worried, ashamed, scared it may be covered with anger. On top of that, managing anger can be a special struggle for children with autism, ADHD, emotional disorders, and children with special educations. So if your child constantly has anger, they may be having these problems.

Teach Your Kids About Anger and other Emotions

Kids are more likely to go out of control when they don’t understand their feelings or they’re not able to tell how they feel.  A child who can’t say “I’m mad,” may try to show you they’re angry by lashing out. Even worse, if they are unable to explain that they’re sad, they may misbehave to get your attention. Therefore, it is crucial to help your child learn to identify and label feelings. Begin by teaching your kids some basic feeling words like mad, sad, happy, and scared. Label your child’s feelings for them by letting them know  “It looks like you feel really angry right now”. Doing this over time will help them learn to label their emotions soon. As your child develops a better understanding of their emotions and how to describe them, teach them more sophisticated words such as frustrated, disappointed, worried, and lonely.

Do Not Use Anger to Deal with Anger

As kids may misbehave if they are angry,  a lot of parents choose to react with a child’s anger by their own anger. They scold, yell, or even punish their kids for being angry.  Doing so will only make the situation worse. If you use punishments to deal with your kid’s anger for a long time, their emotions will be suppressed. It can lead to different bad complications like autism, ADHD, or emotional disorders  So if you’re when your child starts showing signs of anger, you have a role to ease the situation. You should stay calm and talk to your baby in a calm tone. Doing this helps your child calm down, thereby making it easier for you to figure out why they are angry and explaining the situation to your baby better.

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Don’t Hesitate, Help your Kids right away.

Sending your kids to their room to let them calm down is not always a good solution. It may make your child feel more lonely and helpless with their negative emotions. Instead, stay with your baby and let them explain what makes them angry. This will not only help you understand the situation but also allow your child to relieve their anger and calm down. If your child won’t want to share with you, you should try to encourage them to color, read a book, or engage in another calming activity until they are calmed down. You can even create a calm down kit. This kit could include your child’s favorite coloring books and some crayons, a fun book to read, stickers, favorite toys, or lotion that smells good. Therefore, the next time they’re upset, you can let them get the kit and encourage them to take responsibility for calming themselves down.

Be A Good Model for Your Kids

Children will look at you as a model for their behavior, and if you’ve ever yelled at your child, don’t be surprised when you find them losing their temper. You cannot expect your children to control their anger properly if you are unable to do so for yourself. Learn to control your anger, then you can teach your child to follow.

Let Yourself Become A Source of Comfort and Affection for Your Baby

One of the main reasons that lead to children’s anger is that they feel misunderstood or abandoned. So always listen to your child and learn what they want. Let them know that you care about them with hugs, kisses, and reassuring words. Doing this will make them feel much loved and safer, thereby helping them calmer and harder to get angry.

Make Sure That Your Child’s Tantrum Aren’t Effective

As mentioned, your kid can show their anger because it’s an effective way to get their needs met. If your child throws a temper tantrum and you give them a toy to keep them quiet, they will learn temper tantrums are effective. So don’t give in to your child to avoid a meltdown. Although that may be easier in the short-term, in the long run giving in will only make behavior problems and aggression worse.

Avoid Violent Media

If your child struggles with aggressive behavior, exposing them to violent TV shows or video games is not a good idea. You should prevent them from witnessing violence from these media. Instead,  guide your baby to focus on exposing them to books, games, and shows that model healthy conflict resolution skills. Bedtimes stories are a great way to teach your kids about anger, how it will affect them, and how to keep calm. 

Teach your Child about Anger Management

One of the best ways to help an angry child is to teach specific anger management techniques. Taking deep breaths is a common technique that can calm your child’s mind and body when they are upset. Going for a quick walk, counting to 10, or repeating phrases might also help.  You should teach them a variety of other skills as well such as impulse control skills and self-discipline. Angry kids need a fair amount of coaching to help them practice those skills when they’re upset. So remember to accompany them on the road to control their anger. If your child is still having trouble managing his anger, take them to a psychiatrist for advice.

There you go, now you have our tips on how to help your kids deal with their anger. Do you have any other tips that are useful in dealing with a kid’s anger? Please share them with us in the comments!